While Mother’s Day is a day of much deserved celebration for great Moms everywhere it’s also a day of much mourning for about seven-million infertile people like us. It’s not easy to cope with friends and family celebrating everywhere. If we’re not exposed in public we’re exposed online with people posting a wealth of photos on social networks ranging from all the gifts they received to pictures of the cute outfits they put their kids in for the occasion.
With all of the activity on Mother’s Day, people tend to forget about women who cannot become mothers. Mother’s Day is an incredibly painful time for infertile women. You cannot get away from it-There are ads on the TV, posters at the stores, church sermons devoted to celebrating motherhood, and all of the plans for celebrating with your own mother and mother-in-law. (an excerpt from Infertility Etiquette)
Although we appreciate those who know of our infertility and take the time to say or do something it can be awkward and hard to feel like we’re not being pandered to instead of being included. But we’re very thankful for those who care enough to try; though it is bittersweet, thank you.
If we’re not feeling down about the loss of the ability to take part in today’s festivities we’re feeling like grotesque monsters who must stay hidden lest we ruin the day for everyone else. It’s never our intention to offend the ones we love with our mourning. We love that Mothers are celebrated today, that Dads take their kids to buy gifts for Mom, when kids are dressed up and when families are together. We’re happy for our friends and family who celebrate these things more now than ever because we feel we understand a life void of them.
If you’re a Mom you deserve to be appreciated today, relish in it. If you’re a kid, enjoy celebrating Mom, she deserves it. Either way please remember to pray that we will one day share in the gift of children alongside you.